Hello,
The other day, someone earnestly said “happy pride” to me and I said “thanks”. I appreciated the unwavering support from this young person, however my apathetic response is my general feeling towards modern day pride and the systems that still keeps LGBTQ+ people oppressed.
I don’t hate pride because I have internalized homophobia or some inferiority complex. Everything has pretty much come into place in baby steps and feel lucky to be where I am at in this moment. Pride is an important movement signalling acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community.
This might come off as really smug, but I consider myself a pretty confident and self-aware person. Growing up gay, I always told myself to embrace my insecurities. And so I did. They’re no longer insecurities, but an asset. Gay: wouldn’t have it any other way. Bald: it is what it is. Large calves: sign me up. Life is long and you should be able to laugh at yourself along the way. I know myself enough to know that pride can be stressful and I know what I want from it.
I have always felt ostracized by pride - wanting to fit in, but never really found a space for myself. Do I really want to be going to a party with a muscle gay on the poster (basically all posters)? No. I don’t want to give myself body dysmorphia. Do I want to dance to top 40 all night? No. Why is, The Home Depot, a sponsor of Pride Toronto when they’ve donated to anti-LGBTQ+ politicians. Make it make sense. Everyone likes to humour corporate pride takeover, but what are we doing to stop it.
Pride could be fun. It would include friends and friends of friends. A really good playlist including Perfume Genius, Phoebe Bridgers and Japanese Breakfast for good measure. Kim Petras pre-Slut Pop album. An in ground pool. A lot and different types of snacks. Cocktails or none if that’s your vibe. Event funded by people, for people. Everyone exits by 9PM. 👍
Homosexual Agenda
A bird pooped on my Uniqlo white ribbed tank top in Chinatown on Saturday. Bird > Perry.
Julio Torres on Late Night with Seth Meyers. A really fun interview!
This alarming headline: Everything we know about the coming Sriracha shortage
The Hamptons Broker Whose Clients Think $60,000 a Month Is a Great Deal at Curbed. Just as good, if not better than any money diaries out there. I would love to shadow a realtor/broker for a day/week/month/forever. Selling Sunset do you hear me??
This vintage car on my Saturday morning walk to buy a bag of coffee beans. If I were to buy a car, it would 100% be a vintage boxy model from the 80’s. Like this one:
This Yorkville home is sublime. Designed by Montana Labelle. Of course it’s two gays that own this house. In one of the image descriptions, it says “his and his sinks”. This Renovation in Toronto Is Inspired By a Love for California at AD.
Ontario’s healthcare system is in shambles. Ontario doctor who charged for tests he didn't do may still keep the money at CTV News. Where are my high taxes going Dougie?
Why We Need to Talk About the “Bad Gays” in History Too at AnOther. “The idea that liberation is a one-way street and this rights-based discourse which argues that once rights are given they can’t be taken away. History proves that to be completely false again and again and again. So we need to be on our guard.”
The perfect Sunday afternoon grilled cheese from Tsuchi Cafe.
How the Internet Turned Us Into Content Machines at The New Yorker. I think about this a lot. Is this content or is this… something else?
One of my favourite past times is watching live performances recorded by fans. I am DYING to see Weyes Blood live. Here’s Movies @ UCLA earlier this month.
Nilufer Yanya on KEXP. The concert I never got because she postponed her Toronto show in May due to covid.
How Oatly Lost Its Grip on the Oat-Milk Market at WSJ. I don’t buy Oatly because it’s so god damn expensive. I stick to the Canadian brands because they’re more affordable and honestly just as good. But thanks Oatly for championing oat milk!
In anticipation of Perfume Genius’ new album, Ugly Season, out tomorrow, he has released a short film by Jacolby Satterwhite. This would 100% be screened at my pride party. That or Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
At GUFF pre-bird poop:
It’s going up to high 30s today - slather yourself in sunscreen!
Perry